When I think about my future, I see a real man in it that treats me like his one and only. I don't know at what point in my 20 years here on Earth, that this generation decided that having sex was the most important and deciding factor when seeking a partner but that just does not fly with me. I don't have an old soul or any of that stuff that ppl like to say when they have a different mentality regarding certain situations but what I know is that I have self-respect and I won't lose what I have built up for myself just to create some false hope with a guy by getting pregnant. Having a child id a gift and before a child I want a man that will go "Hey. Don't you know that I can love you like this for the rest of our lives? I can come home after work, ask about your day, be there with you until you fall asleep, and be that sleeping/smiling face you see when you wake up in the morning?" I need a man that is not afraid to be without me for a few months because I want to get my degree or I have a project overseas, I want a man that can go without me physically and instead feed my soul emotionally and intimately.
Women are having babies just to keep a man in they back pocket and their best ammunition when they find out the man doesn't want their ass is "Well you can't see your kid." Get this through your THICK SKULL, the kid is his, you ARE NOT!!! That is the wrong ultimatum to give a man that genuinely wants to be involved in his child's life. The problem these days is Babies raising Babies...problems begetting problems, seemingly never-ending lol.
Guys need to sit down and realize that Dick is a dime a dozen and sorry for the blunt wording but it's true. If a female is giviing it up and you two just met, that's a problem can you see yourself with her for the rest of your life or is it "Hey, I'm feigning for some of the P****y and you look cold so it doesn't matter that I just met you last week." Women give it up because they think the act of sex will tie them to a man emotionally but honestly for a man, sex 9 times out of 10 is just a physical act. One that renders no emotional attachment between two beings and that is the mistake that women make when thinking otherwise, so then when you say "I'm pregnant" You get the 3rd degree, is it mine, we used a condom, it was only once, we don't even kick it like that. If you reading this and you feel like that's bogus then it's probably because this pertains to you. I'm sick of holding my tongue and I'm sick of being disregarded because men today would rather have sex than put a ring on a lady's finger and start a family and have a career. If you hustling on the street, I ain't made at you but if that's the life that you are aspiring after, then you are wack and you need to get a job.
Women...you are just as guilty. If you give the man the goods first date...he IS NOT putting a ring on it lol. You are deemed easy and who wants the easy lady raising their child. If you set standards for a man, there will be no wondering down the road why your baby daddy is so trifling or why he doesn't want to see the child and why you have to struggle to get things taken care of. If a man had a child with every woman he had sex with, the world would have starved to death a long time ago and there would be many unhappy women and children in the world. Sad truth...but the truth none the less.
Men...your girlfriend is not your mother so please don't expect her to cook and clean your house or place or take care of your children when you are not giving her the proper respect as your lady. I hate seeing guys' status' saying "bitch this, hoe that..." It's not cute and if you think it is....you have no home training and if you do then your mother and father are probably kicking themselves every night trying to figure out where they went wrong. If I see that bull ish in your status...please don't message me trying to kick it or get a number or date because I'm over that. My daddy NEVER called me out of my name and neither wiill you. And if a woman pisses you off to the point where you feel like you gotta call her out of her name...then guess what, keep it moving because I don't want to be the lady whose husband lost his temper and punched her in the eye or called her a bitch in front of their children. I'm just saying, I fight back and I am not afraid to take it there. Children pick up on all of that and if you think they don't then that shows you lack of knowledge. Be a man and treat a woman like a woman.
Alright this is all I have for right now but there might be a little more to come because women and men...you all are getting lazy in regards to relationships and etiquette. Learn to do better, and don't blame your current situation on your surroundings and upbringing because blame can only be stretched so thin before snapping and popping you in the face. Mistakes happen but that is why you use them to make yourself a better person and capitalize on opportunity.
Women are having babies just to keep a man in they back pocket and their best ammunition when they find out the man doesn't want their ass is "Well you can't see your kid." Get this through your THICK SKULL, the kid is his, you ARE NOT!!! That is the wrong ultimatum to give a man that genuinely wants to be involved in his child's life. The problem these days is Babies raising Babies...problems begetting problems, seemingly never-ending lol.
Guys need to sit down and realize that Dick is a dime a dozen and sorry for the blunt wording but it's true. If a female is giviing it up and you two just met, that's a problem can you see yourself with her for the rest of your life or is it "Hey, I'm feigning for some of the P****y and you look cold so it doesn't matter that I just met you last week." Women give it up because they think the act of sex will tie them to a man emotionally but honestly for a man, sex 9 times out of 10 is just a physical act. One that renders no emotional attachment between two beings and that is the mistake that women make when thinking otherwise, so then when you say "I'm pregnant" You get the 3rd degree, is it mine, we used a condom, it was only once, we don't even kick it like that. If you reading this and you feel like that's bogus then it's probably because this pertains to you. I'm sick of holding my tongue and I'm sick of being disregarded because men today would rather have sex than put a ring on a lady's finger and start a family and have a career. If you hustling on the street, I ain't made at you but if that's the life that you are aspiring after, then you are wack and you need to get a job.
Women...you are just as guilty. If you give the man the goods first date...he IS NOT putting a ring on it lol. You are deemed easy and who wants the easy lady raising their child. If you set standards for a man, there will be no wondering down the road why your baby daddy is so trifling or why he doesn't want to see the child and why you have to struggle to get things taken care of. If a man had a child with every woman he had sex with, the world would have starved to death a long time ago and there would be many unhappy women and children in the world. Sad truth...but the truth none the less.
Men...your girlfriend is not your mother so please don't expect her to cook and clean your house or place or take care of your children when you are not giving her the proper respect as your lady. I hate seeing guys' status' saying "bitch this, hoe that..." It's not cute and if you think it is....you have no home training and if you do then your mother and father are probably kicking themselves every night trying to figure out where they went wrong. If I see that bull ish in your status...please don't message me trying to kick it or get a number or date because I'm over that. My daddy NEVER called me out of my name and neither wiill you. And if a woman pisses you off to the point where you feel like you gotta call her out of her name...then guess what, keep it moving because I don't want to be the lady whose husband lost his temper and punched her in the eye or called her a bitch in front of their children. I'm just saying, I fight back and I am not afraid to take it there. Children pick up on all of that and if you think they don't then that shows you lack of knowledge. Be a man and treat a woman like a woman.
Alright this is all I have for right now but there might be a little more to come because women and men...you all are getting lazy in regards to relationships and etiquette. Learn to do better, and don't blame your current situation on your surroundings and upbringing because blame can only be stretched so thin before snapping and popping you in the face. Mistakes happen but that is why you use them to make yourself a better person and capitalize on opportunity.
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All I can say is "yes!" That was so good to read, especially with so many of my friends that need to read this. Tell your friend that I said that I loved reading this. Thumbs up! And I can't wait til she lets you post something else that she posts.
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